Hello everyone, Very thankfull this evening that I have found this forum! Briefly, my father who is 63 years old has been diagnosed six months ago He and the rest of the family knew for nearly two years that it could be the case. The hardest thing to cope with has been a major change in personality. He's quite aware of what's happening, which has understandably brought about some depression (for which he is on medication) He however is very self absorbed and self aware, which means any little ailment is blown out of proportion, recently I took him to casualty on his insistance, when I knew that he was having a panic attack, yet only reassurance from a doctor would suffice. We sometimes feel, (here comes the guilt) that he is "playing up' my mother recently went on a much needed holiday, and he was quite down and had alot of 'bad days'. On her return he let her know just how he hadn't coped with her being away. I felt that was selfish when I, my sister and a family friend rang rings around him in her absence( I know he can't probably help saying it) Is anyone having a simillar experience? Any ideas on how to motivate someone into activities that might take their mind off their ilness. I just feel while he is lucid now, its important he has a good quality mental health. He complains of lack of energy, shivery legs and a raw feeling inside he is on Aricept. Initially it seemed to be working very well, I wonder if any others have noticed these type of symproms. I just read this back and it seems horribly unsympathetic! I love my Dad so very much, but finding it hard to see a once very independant man feel so worthless and give up. Looking forward to your replies.