Arguments

[alamo]

I hve just spent 45 mins trying to retrieve my oh incontinence pad from the wc and then trying to get him to put on clean pants and a new pad. I have told him he has to put them on to protect our son's furniture but he argues all the time about anything and everything, swears and threatens. All of a sudden he complies with my request. How does anyone deal with this it is driving me mad!

 

[Cinder]

We stole my MIL's undies & replaced them with disposable pants.



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[JayGun]

We stole my MIL's undies & replaced them with disposable pants.



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We tried that too. MIL made a bonfire of the incontinence pants before sobbing to the neighbours that we were mistreating her and had left her without any underwear and begging them most pathetically to go to Marks and buy her some more.

The neighbours now give me the side eyes when we see them and we're back to a house that smells like a rancid sewer, soiled underwear stuffed everywhere and constant cleaning up of urine and faeces. Her windows must never be opened and lately she keeps the curtains closed too. The house is festering and rank. It makes me gag to breathe what we laughingly call air in there.

This will be the thing that breaks me.

 

[cragmaid]

Try saying " The Doctor says you have to wear them to stop you getting an infection".

Doctors are authoritarian figures, they know what they are talking about therefore he might comply.( so it is thought anyway) Saying you might damage someone's furntiture is guaranteed a "No I won't" answer.

 

[patsy56]

We tried that too. MIL made a bonfire of the incontinence pants before sobbing to the neighbours that we were mistreating her and had left her without any underwear and begging them most pathetically to go to Marks and buy her some more.

The neighbours now give me the side eyes when we see them and we're back to a house that smells like a rancid sewer, soiled underwear stuffed everywhere and constant cleaning up of urine and faeces. Her windows must never be opened and lately she keeps the curtains closed too. The house is festering and rank. It makes me gag to breathe what we laughingly call air in there.

This will be the thing that breaks me.

I am so sorry, yes I'm worried my mother may be going like this as she had no pants last week, I had to buy and send

 

[alamo]

We stole my MIL's undies & replaced them with disposable pants.



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Many thanks for the advice
alamo

 

[alamo]

Try saying " The Doctor says you have to wear them to stop you getting an infection".

Doctors are authoritarian figures, they know what they are talking about therefore he might comply.( so it is thought anyway) Saying you might damage someone's furntiture is guaranteed a "No I won't" answer.

I do use that approach when oh has a bath (or not) in the morning quoting the district nurse might be coming. It does work sometimes but as you know everything changes in minutes. Many thanks - alamo

 

[JayGun]

I am so sorry, yes I'm worried my mother may be going like this as she had no pants last week, I had to buy and send

Thanks Patsy56. It's awful isn't it?