Hello. Just found this site and posting my first message. Here's my problem. My 85-year-old father has been trying to look after my mother but has got to the point where their frailty and the increasingly hard time she gives him means that he just cannot go on. Things came to a head last week when she ended up in hospital with a fractured hip. She went downhill quite considerably, and social services told dad that she would need a nursing home. We've found a very nice place with space for her, but meanwhile she has rallied somewhat, and when dad put the idea of the home to her she flatly refused to discuss it, let alone agree to it. The hospital wants her out, dad can't take her home, and social services say they can't make her go into the nursing home if she doesn't want to. Dad is still hoping that someone will convince her to go voluntarily, but just how likely is that to happen? And what do we do if she won't? Many thanks for any thoughts.