Hi,
IBoth my parents have a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s, dad isn’t too bad but unfortunately mum is now in the later stages of dementia. As I promised them I have kept them together in their own home with the support of a private care company, unfortunately mum became unwell with an infection and was admitted to hospital for two weeks. When discharged she returned home and we got sit in carers overnight to care for her as she wanders around most of the night. Up until her spell in hospital mum managed to keep herself relatively clean and incontinence wasn’t a huge concern. Mum has always refused any help with personal care from anyone. It became obvious that even with extra care she wasn’t managing at home and it wasn’t fair on my father as he isn’t in the best health either. The decision was made to put her in respite for a couple weeks, as they are self funded we basically had to find and sort this. She was taken to a home specialising in dementia, obviously unsettled but no more than at home. She became very agitated, pacing and they called the dr out as she appeared to be in some discomfort., I managed to get her to the toilet and got a sample which was positive for water infection. The staff phoned yesterday to say she is refusing to take her medicine, refusing all personal care , has been violent ? Towards other residents and they don’t feel they can meet her needs. They said I need to find a emi nursing home, they said she can stay a week but we then need to move her. Has anyone been in this situation? Just welcome any advice or suggestions, I am devastated that she had to go into residential care as it is but now I am really struggling. The lack of help and support, particularly when they are self funded is disgusting. I have been considering 24 hour care at home but don’t really know if this is enough, What can be done when they refuse and help with personal care?
I hate dementia
Any advice welcome
Thankyou
IBoth my parents have a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s, dad isn’t too bad but unfortunately mum is now in the later stages of dementia. As I promised them I have kept them together in their own home with the support of a private care company, unfortunately mum became unwell with an infection and was admitted to hospital for two weeks. When discharged she returned home and we got sit in carers overnight to care for her as she wanders around most of the night. Up until her spell in hospital mum managed to keep herself relatively clean and incontinence wasn’t a huge concern. Mum has always refused any help with personal care from anyone. It became obvious that even with extra care she wasn’t managing at home and it wasn’t fair on my father as he isn’t in the best health either. The decision was made to put her in respite for a couple weeks, as they are self funded we basically had to find and sort this. She was taken to a home specialising in dementia, obviously unsettled but no more than at home. She became very agitated, pacing and they called the dr out as she appeared to be in some discomfort., I managed to get her to the toilet and got a sample which was positive for water infection. The staff phoned yesterday to say she is refusing to take her medicine, refusing all personal care , has been violent ? Towards other residents and they don’t feel they can meet her needs. They said I need to find a emi nursing home, they said she can stay a week but we then need to move her. Has anyone been in this situation? Just welcome any advice or suggestions, I am devastated that she had to go into residential care as it is but now I am really struggling. The lack of help and support, particularly when they are self funded is disgusting. I have been considering 24 hour care at home but don’t really know if this is enough, What can be done when they refuse and help with personal care?
I hate dementia
Any advice welcome
Thankyou