Mum 94 has moved in with my sister leaving a house empty in a different area. It been a hard year with mums dementia getting worse and she could no longer cope at home
As a family we are not ready for her to move into a care home. My sister wanted to care for mum so took her to live with her in December. Because we need to deal with her house and to be able to sign forms on her behalf, we decided to apply to be a deputy as we have no POA. I spoke to the court of protection who were very helpful , they told me which COP forms I need to fill in. Because mum does not have a big financial portfolio. I decided to have a go and fill in the forms myself, the guidance is good and the questions seem easy enough to answer. And the very help full lady at the COP said I could do it with out a appointing a solicitar which would charge me a large sum. I was so proud of my self this week as I finished the forms and sent them off to my sister so that we could get her GP to fill in cop3 and assess mums mental capacity. This is when the fun started. The GP told us they could not fill in the form or assess mum because has only been registared with them since dec 14. And also the form need to be filled by a solicitor. I am sure they are wrong. I them spoke to the social worker ( who had to talk to her manager about this ) they also told me the mental capacity form had to be filled in by a solicitar. I found this very frustrating because as the COP 3 it clearly states that a doctor or social worker can do the assement and fill out the form. Am I going mad or do solicitars have the correct qualification to assess mental capacity. Surely all they do is send it to the doctor to do. So now I am still no further forward . I still can't sign any form on mums behalf and the house will remain empty until I can get permission to deal with mums affairs. I feel I am going round in circles . Mum has no understanding of all this. We should have applied for POW some years ago but never got round to it. Surely the Doctors have assess to all mums record and can see that she has already been assessed by the hospital in Newcastle and her congestive score is low. We are quite willing to pay for them todo this so why are they so reluctant to do this. On Monday I will talk to the COP again. Umti then any help and advise would me very much appreciated. I am so frustrated as I can't seem to move forward. X
As a family we are not ready for her to move into a care home. My sister wanted to care for mum so took her to live with her in December. Because we need to deal with her house and to be able to sign forms on her behalf, we decided to apply to be a deputy as we have no POA. I spoke to the court of protection who were very helpful , they told me which COP forms I need to fill in. Because mum does not have a big financial portfolio. I decided to have a go and fill in the forms myself, the guidance is good and the questions seem easy enough to answer. And the very help full lady at the COP said I could do it with out a appointing a solicitar which would charge me a large sum. I was so proud of my self this week as I finished the forms and sent them off to my sister so that we could get her GP to fill in cop3 and assess mums mental capacity. This is when the fun started. The GP told us they could not fill in the form or assess mum because has only been registared with them since dec 14. And also the form need to be filled by a solicitor. I am sure they are wrong. I them spoke to the social worker ( who had to talk to her manager about this ) they also told me the mental capacity form had to be filled in by a solicitar. I found this very frustrating because as the COP 3 it clearly states that a doctor or social worker can do the assement and fill out the form. Am I going mad or do solicitars have the correct qualification to assess mental capacity. Surely all they do is send it to the doctor to do. So now I am still no further forward . I still can't sign any form on mums behalf and the house will remain empty until I can get permission to deal with mums affairs. I feel I am going round in circles . Mum has no understanding of all this. We should have applied for POW some years ago but never got round to it. Surely the Doctors have assess to all mums record and can see that she has already been assessed by the hospital in Newcastle and her congestive score is low. We are quite willing to pay for them todo this so why are they so reluctant to do this. On Monday I will talk to the COP again. Umti then any help and advise would me very much appreciated. I am so frustrated as I can't seem to move forward. X
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