1. rhallacroz

    rhallacroz Registered User

    Sep 24, 2007
    106
    merseyside
    hi phillipa

    Hi philipa
    Just to let you know I am thinking of you tonight. It is so awful isn;t it. My dad is ill too he has the dreaded chest infection and is nursed at home in the lounge with carers and my mum. Luckily Ihave night care as well just feel that this time dad may not get over it . He has been told today that he should be prophylactic antibiotics. To preevent re occurence. It is awful to watch them decline we must all pray that we have the strength to get though the day.And put our trust in a higher being be it God or whoever . I try to let go and let God have is will. What will be will be whether we like it or not. Just hope that we have the strength to accept it and get some peace in the fact that at this point it is out of our hands.
    Lets hope that tomorrow brings better news.
    Thinking of you
    Angela x
     
  2. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Dear Philippa and Angela

    Just sending much love, hugs and prayers to you both. It's going to be a hard night for you both. Hopefully the morning will be brighter.

    Love,
     
  3. zoet

    zoet Registered User

    Just for YOU

    Hi Phillipa.

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

    Just for today, even if it isnt for long, try and think of yourself and do something nice for YOU. You deserve it. lots of happy wishes.Zoe xxx
     
  4. Philippa

    Philippa Registered User

    Feb 26, 2008
    41
    Essex
    Sad news, everyone. We got a call from the hospital just as I posted my message last night to say that Dad was failing rapidly. Mum and I raced over but were just a few minutes too late. But we were able to see him and he looked peaceful. The nurse was very kind.

    Angela, I'm so sorry your Dad has a chest infection too. And Zoe, thanks for your message.

    xx
     
  5. SusanB

    SusanB Registered User

    Jan 15, 2008
    155
    Hove
    Oh, Philippa

    I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. That's really dreadful and my heart really goes out to you.

    You will have a lot on your plate over the next few days.

    And it's your birthday today...? I guess Happy Birthday is inappropriate, but just to say that my thoughts are with you - and I don't even know you!

    Take care
    Susan
     
  6. nickyd

    nickyd Registered User

    Oct 20, 2007
    146
    warwickshire
    Oh Phillipa,
    I've just caught up on your post, and I'm so truly sorry.
    My heartfelt sympathy's are sent to you and your Family.
    Again, it seems inappropriate to say Happy Birthday'..
    Take comfort in the fact, that you did all you could for your Dad, and he is free from this awful disease.
    Take Care of yourself and your Daughter,
    Love & Hugs,
     
  7. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,896
    Kent
    Dear Philippa.

    I am so sorry to hear the news of your father and offer my sincere condolences to you aand your mother.

    I hope in years to come you will have happier birthdays.

    Love xx
     
  8. hendy

    hendy Registered User

    Feb 20, 2008
    506
    West Yorkshire
    Dear Phillipa
    I was saddened to read your news about Dad. He is at peace now and he passed on knowing his family all loved him.
    please take care
    hendy
     
  9. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Dear Philippa

    I'm so sorry to hear your news.

    Your dad is at peace now, free from all suffering. And it's good that he was peaceful at the end. Don't worry that you weren't there, your dad knew how much you all loved him, and perhaps he chose his time so as not to distress you.

    Take care of yourself and your mum now, and allow yourselves to grieve, either together or separately, whichever seems best for you.

    Try to do something positive today, it will help you through future birthdays if you have some positive memories of today.

    Keep posting, we are still here for you.

    Love,
     
  10. zoet

    zoet Registered User

    oh Phillipa....I'm so very sorry.:( Now at last your lovely dad is at peace. How terrible for you, and on your birthday. Sending all my love and my most sincere sympathy to you and your family. Just hold on to your happy memories and comfort each other with them. Big hugs....Zoe xxx
     
  11. rhallacroz

    rhallacroz Registered User

    Sep 24, 2007
    106
    merseyside
    Dear Philipa

    Oh Philipa
    I am so sorry that your dad has passed away. Your birthday as well. Life is cruel. I am sure it has been said before but he is now so much at peace. Please be confident in the knowledge that you did all for your dad nothing to reproach yourself for what so ever. You will be in my prayers. My dad is poorly too its horrid isn;t it.
    All my love to you and your family.
    With Love
    Angela xx
     
  12. sue38

    sue38 Registered User

    Mar 6, 2007
    10,856
    Wigan, Lancs
    Phillipa,

    I'm so sorry to read that your Dad has passed away. At least it sounds as though his care at the hospital towards the end was better and that he passed away peacefully. But I am sure that you didn't want it to be today of all days...

    Thinking of you and your family.
     
  13. Philippa

    Philippa Registered User

    Feb 26, 2008
    41
    Essex
    Thank you all for your kind messages. Today is proving quite hard. I haven't even cried yet which I'm amazed at. I usually cry easily.

    Philippa
     
  14. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Phillipa, how I managed to miss your sad news I don't know.

    Please accept my condolences. Stay strong.
     
  15. gigi

    gigi Registered User

    Nov 16, 2007
    7,788
    East Midlands
    Philippa,
    I've been so busy with my own problems I missed the post about your dad..I'm so..so sorry!
    Look after yourself..my condolences to you and your family..

    Love Gigi x
     
  16. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,424
    Philippa I am so sorry to hear about your father.

    As to the crying - you're probably in a state of shock still. The body seems to be able to hold it together for a period of time after a death, probably because there is so much to do, but eventually the tears will fall. Take care of yourself - there is no right way to grieve.
     
  17. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,012
    Toronto, Canada
    Philippa,
    I'm very sorry to hear the news about your father. My condolences to you and your family.

    Your posts reflected a caring loving daughter and I'm certain your father was aware of that to the end.

    Take care of yourself.
     
  18. zoet

    zoet Registered User

    Phillipa....thinking of you tonight. love Zoe xx
     
  19. frederickgt

    frederickgt Registered User

    Jun 4, 2005
    124
    Hornchurch,Essex
    Hello Phillipa,Hope you are OK now,so it is Queens! Hope your experience with that place is better than mine,they will probably put him in Cornflower A,There are some good nurses there,but also there are others watch them some are "it's not my job" when you ask for a water jug to be refilled.
    Keep at them.
    Hope you find parking alright.I made a number of official complaints,and I deeply regret noi forcibly removing Anna.
    Let me know how you get on,Thinking of you
    Fred.
     
  20. frederickgt

    frederickgt Registered User

    Jun 4, 2005
    124
    Hornchurch,Essex
    #60 frederickgt, Mar 20, 2008
    Last edited: Mar 20, 2008
    So Sorry Philippa,Your story so closely follows mine,At least now your father is at peace,no more confusion,no more pain,no
    more loss of dignity.He is still loved,just as My Anna is,if wonder if they meet?
    I miss Anna terribly,just as you miss your father,but,they are so much better now arent they.
    A poem for you
    SAFELY HOME
    I am home in heaven dear ones,
    Oh so happy and so bright
    There is perfect joy and beauty
    I this everlasting light

    All the pain and grief is over
    Every restless tossing passed
    I am now at peace forever
    Safely home in heaven at last

    Did you wonder I so calmly
    Trod the valley of the shade?
    Oh.but Jesus' love illuminated
    Every bark and fearfuk glade

    And he came Himself to meet me
    In that way so hard to tread
    And with Jesus' arm to lean on
    Could I have one doubt or break

    Then you must not grieve so sorely
    For I love you dearly still
    Try to look beyond Earth' shadows
    Pray to trust our Fathers' will
    There is work still waiting for you
    So you must not idly stand
    Do it now while life remaineth
    You shall rest in Jesus' land

    When the work is all completed
    He will gently call you home
    OH,the rapture od that meeting
    Oh.yhe joy to see you come.
    Love from Fred.
     

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