Hello, this is my first post so forgive me if this has been covered elsewhere.
My father in law, 87, has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. His wife died 7 years ago, and he was her carer. He never really moved through the grieving stages and always talked about her and how much he missed her. However, he now never uses her name unless he’s looking at old photographs, when he’s very in the moment. He now says he wants to change his will because he “doesn’t want to give money to the person he lives with never helps him, or talks to him, or does anything for him”. Because he is in every other way (mostly) as he has always been, I tell him that she has died - that she really loved him, and that they had a good life together. He doesn’t get upset but the realisation sort of washes over him. When he has these episodes he never uses her name, even when I ask him who he’s talking about - and when he talks about her there is a lot of anger there. Has anyone any ideas how I can help him with this ? I know it’s going to get worse - but I’m trying to help him while he’s still in the early stages. Thanks everyone.
My father in law, 87, has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. His wife died 7 years ago, and he was her carer. He never really moved through the grieving stages and always talked about her and how much he missed her. However, he now never uses her name unless he’s looking at old photographs, when he’s very in the moment. He now says he wants to change his will because he “doesn’t want to give money to the person he lives with never helps him, or talks to him, or does anything for him”. Because he is in every other way (mostly) as he has always been, I tell him that she has died - that she really loved him, and that they had a good life together. He doesn’t get upset but the realisation sort of washes over him. When he has these episodes he never uses her name, even when I ask him who he’s talking about - and when he talks about her there is a lot of anger there. Has anyone any ideas how I can help him with this ? I know it’s going to get worse - but I’m trying to help him while he’s still in the early stages. Thanks everyone.