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This is my first visit! where to begin...
My mother was diagnosed with short term memory loss due to depression. She lost five family members within a short period of time and would not have any counselling to help but relied heavily on talking everything through with me ever since. This all started in 2000 and her memory has been progressively getting worse. She is registered under the memory clinic and has been prescribed medication. She is now 78 and lives alone but generally manages quite well. She walks daily, feeds herself and has no daily care but does suffer terribly with confusion and general depression. My biggest concern is finance. I have Power of Attorney, but on a general basis she likes to take responsibility herself has a bank card, buys food shopping daily but buys things several times over as she forgets what she has already purchased,. The same also applies with cash withdrawals. These are now becoming higher than the income going in and despite speaking to her bank, having the power of attorney and having my name put on her account, I feel very out on a limb with no support from the bank. Of course she cannot remember taking the cash out or what indeed she is doing with it all! I have asked for a card that would limit cash but that is apparently not an option. I set up a new joint account with the aim of giving her a weekly pot in a separate account so that it does not jeopardise direct debits etc. in her normal account, but the bank sent everything to Mum which she then lost, despite asking for everything to be sent to me. I have to say I repeat every take at least three times with the bank and the Power of Attorney seems to hold very little weight at all. The house is full to bursting with repeated purchases, enough birthday and xmas cards to sink a ship and shampoo and conditioner to supply Boots the Chemist!
I try to stay positive about the situation but worry how to deal with her. I visit weekly and she does have a couple of good friends but she tells me she does not see anyone and cries an awful lot. She does see people but of course she forgets. She is not good at joining things and can be very stubborn about help.
I have been recommended to visit this site and hope that I can find some support, if not all the answers.
This is my first visit! where to begin...
My mother was diagnosed with short term memory loss due to depression. She lost five family members within a short period of time and would not have any counselling to help but relied heavily on talking everything through with me ever since. This all started in 2000 and her memory has been progressively getting worse. She is registered under the memory clinic and has been prescribed medication. She is now 78 and lives alone but generally manages quite well. She walks daily, feeds herself and has no daily care but does suffer terribly with confusion and general depression. My biggest concern is finance. I have Power of Attorney, but on a general basis she likes to take responsibility herself has a bank card, buys food shopping daily but buys things several times over as she forgets what she has already purchased,. The same also applies with cash withdrawals. These are now becoming higher than the income going in and despite speaking to her bank, having the power of attorney and having my name put on her account, I feel very out on a limb with no support from the bank. Of course she cannot remember taking the cash out or what indeed she is doing with it all! I have asked for a card that would limit cash but that is apparently not an option. I set up a new joint account with the aim of giving her a weekly pot in a separate account so that it does not jeopardise direct debits etc. in her normal account, but the bank sent everything to Mum which she then lost, despite asking for everything to be sent to me. I have to say I repeat every take at least three times with the bank and the Power of Attorney seems to hold very little weight at all. The house is full to bursting with repeated purchases, enough birthday and xmas cards to sink a ship and shampoo and conditioner to supply Boots the Chemist!
I try to stay positive about the situation but worry how to deal with her. I visit weekly and she does have a couple of good friends but she tells me she does not see anyone and cries an awful lot. She does see people but of course she forgets. She is not good at joining things and can be very stubborn about help.
I have been recommended to visit this site and hope that I can find some support, if not all the answers.