Some of you may have experienced this before but I would appreciate any ideas you might have.
I've not posted here before so sorry if this is a bit long. My Dad was diagnosed in January, but he's never really accepted it. Has had memory problems for about the last 3 years but finally went tto doctors who referred him to hospital in January. He's now on medication (which he sometimes forgets to take) He said that his house was too big for him to manage and never saw anyone during the day. My brother and I suggested moving to a warden controlled flat where he would have company during the day and its a short walk to the town centre so he wouldnt have to drive (he still does but really shouldnt be). We helped him with all arrangements but he became quite distressed, was taking too long, would pack and unpack boxes, empty and re-fil cupboards. Anyway he had to move out of his house before he could move into his flat. We were due to go on holiday (booked previous year) so suggested to dad that he also have holiday with family abroad. This would mean that we'd know he was ok and that we could paint flat and move his stuff into flat before he came home. He was happy with this and was quite excited about moving into new flat.
Well he came home from holiday and said that he wanted to emigrate, doesnt like flat, never seen it before, we've dumped him there, its full of old people (he's 80), we have tried to suggest he join some local clubs but he is just not interested. He was always a quiet person, but has recently been swearing and generally being quite stroppy when I try to talk to him. I realise that it's all been unsettling for him but just dont know what I should say to him to reasure him.
I've not posted here before so sorry if this is a bit long. My Dad was diagnosed in January, but he's never really accepted it. Has had memory problems for about the last 3 years but finally went tto doctors who referred him to hospital in January. He's now on medication (which he sometimes forgets to take) He said that his house was too big for him to manage and never saw anyone during the day. My brother and I suggested moving to a warden controlled flat where he would have company during the day and its a short walk to the town centre so he wouldnt have to drive (he still does but really shouldnt be). We helped him with all arrangements but he became quite distressed, was taking too long, would pack and unpack boxes, empty and re-fil cupboards. Anyway he had to move out of his house before he could move into his flat. We were due to go on holiday (booked previous year) so suggested to dad that he also have holiday with family abroad. This would mean that we'd know he was ok and that we could paint flat and move his stuff into flat before he came home. He was happy with this and was quite excited about moving into new flat.
Well he came home from holiday and said that he wanted to emigrate, doesnt like flat, never seen it before, we've dumped him there, its full of old people (he's 80), we have tried to suggest he join some local clubs but he is just not interested. He was always a quiet person, but has recently been swearing and generally being quite stroppy when I try to talk to him. I realise that it's all been unsettling for him but just dont know what I should say to him to reasure him.