Hello everyone. I'm after some advice about my dad. He was diagnosed with mild dementia and possible Alzheimers earlier this year (March) but seems to be becoming increasingly confused, forgetful and erratic almost with each passing week. Certainly there has been significant change since Christmas. The problem is that he is in total denial. He knows that something is amiss and has admitted as much, but simply puts this down to 'old age'. My mum has been as supportive and helpful as she can, but he will not allow her to help with dealing with his affairs and is really struggling with confronting his loss of independence. I have tried talking to him gently and rationally, but have hit a brick wall each time. He simply will not budge. The thing is, my mum has her own health issues going on and is keen to move closer to my sister, which really she has to, both for her own and my dad's sake. One minute my dad is agreeing to this, the next he is not and will not commit to a decision.
It is now getting to the point where my mum is being torn apart by this. She cannot cope in their existing house and is desperate to be closer to her daughter and grandkids, and is now really struggling to cope with my dad. He asks for help, but then will not accept it. She is frustrated beyond belief and is being torn apart about what to do for the best. If only he would acknowledge the reality and accept some help then things may well be different.
Does anyone have any tips on how best to deal with this?
Cheers,
Ed
It is now getting to the point where my mum is being torn apart by this. She cannot cope in their existing house and is desperate to be closer to her daughter and grandkids, and is now really struggling to cope with my dad. He asks for help, but then will not accept it. She is frustrated beyond belief and is being torn apart about what to do for the best. If only he would acknowledge the reality and accept some help then things may well be different.
Does anyone have any tips on how best to deal with this?
Cheers,
Ed