hi
my mam has vascular dementia and went into a care home last july. i am the only family so i had to make the decision on my own. i know i've done the right thing by putting her into a home and i know she is cared for. but i still cant deal with it. i had a holiday in january and after lots of crying and fretting beforehand still managed to have a great time and tried hard not to think about her. when i came back i felt guilty for being away and have found it even harder to visit. before my holiday i went to visit everyday, it takes up so much of my time but im wracked with guilt if i dont go. my social life suffers as well as housework etc so i decided to go on alternate days, but when i missed a day i found it really hard to go back and it was over a week that i didnt visit her. i cant explain why ive gone from one extreme to the other but im finding it harder and harder to see her but also guilty for not going...
i have no idea how to deal with it all
my mam has vascular dementia and went into a care home last july. i am the only family so i had to make the decision on my own. i know i've done the right thing by putting her into a home and i know she is cared for. but i still cant deal with it. i had a holiday in january and after lots of crying and fretting beforehand still managed to have a great time and tried hard not to think about her. when i came back i felt guilty for being away and have found it even harder to visit. before my holiday i went to visit everyday, it takes up so much of my time but im wracked with guilt if i dont go. my social life suffers as well as housework etc so i decided to go on alternate days, but when i missed a day i found it really hard to go back and it was over a week that i didnt visit her. i cant explain why ive gone from one extreme to the other but im finding it harder and harder to see her but also guilty for not going...
i have no idea how to deal with it all