Mum has mentioned a couple of times that there is another 'attendee' (not sure that's the right word?) at one of her day centres whom she finds quite distressing. According to mum the lady 'gets very upset' .... and unfortunately for mum, the attendee is picked up and transported on the same 'run' as mum and it appears always takes - or is given - the seat next to mum on the 'minibus' .... (which because of all the pick-ups and drop-offs means she might be sat next to the lady for some considerable time with no means of 'avoiding her' which presumably mum has the space to do in the centre itself).
I know mum isn't always enamoured with this particular day centre (much preferring the smaller venue run by a charity she attends on a different day) and I know this must sound really selfish - in that I don't - for my own reasons - want her to stop going. Securing any daycare has been a hard fought battle and it has made a huge difference for me in the week in terms of my working and family life ..... Less selfishly, she IS clearly stimulated by it (even if that means she's just got something to moan about!!!) But if someone else is distressing her to the extent she will - I suspect - refuse to go, what to do?
I am very conscious that this 'upset lady' may well be my mother one day (even me) and I would hate to think if I say anything to anyone about it I may cause distress for her carers? But I don't feel inclined to just sit back and say nothing when it is clearly causing some anxiety for mum?????
Any ideas how to handle this/who to speak to about it, if anyone, gratefully received. Thanks, Karen, x
I know mum isn't always enamoured with this particular day centre (much preferring the smaller venue run by a charity she attends on a different day) and I know this must sound really selfish - in that I don't - for my own reasons - want her to stop going. Securing any daycare has been a hard fought battle and it has made a huge difference for me in the week in terms of my working and family life ..... Less selfishly, she IS clearly stimulated by it (even if that means she's just got something to moan about!!!) But if someone else is distressing her to the extent she will - I suspect - refuse to go, what to do?
I am very conscious that this 'upset lady' may well be my mother one day (even me) and I would hate to think if I say anything to anyone about it I may cause distress for her carers? But I don't feel inclined to just sit back and say nothing when it is clearly causing some anxiety for mum?????
Any ideas how to handle this/who to speak to about it, if anyone, gratefully received. Thanks, Karen, x