Please can anyone give me any advice on how to get my mum to wee!!! Following an assessment at the continence clinic it is pretty clear mum holds it in all day......and only when she is asleep ,relaxed in bed ,does she empty her bladder.... I have tried reminding her,taking her every 3-4 hours,sitting her on the toilet...all to no avail!! Mum is still in "army" mode from 60 years ago when they weren't allowed to go as and when they felt like it!!! She flatly refuses to try to wee......gets mad with me and says she'll go when it's time!!!! I want to avoid her getting a UTI but it all seems pretty hopeless at the moment!!! Getting a sample from her on Tuesday morning also seems pretty impossible at the moment!!!