Hi, I have'nt had time to be here for quite a while but would really appreciate some advice if anyone has any ideas. Dad has really deteriorated recently. He is living on his own. Thankfully he has never wandered, he won't go out of the house unless it is with me. He has Social services carers in twice a day to help him get up in the morning and go to bed in the evening. He has an age concern home help to cook his lunch, prepare his tea and do some cleaning. I take care of everything else. I do have a brother and sister who provide minimal help. My problems are; As Dad is deteriorating should i be considering a care home? How do i know when he shouldn't be on his own anymore? (He carn't live with me due to family disagreement over his money!) Social services keep changing his carers so his personnal care is not as good as it was. Dad has a problem with ritualistic behaviour he gets really anxious if things aren't done the way he has always done them. I have complained about the lack of continuity but just get fobbed off.
Sorry i am ramblling now but i just don't know what to do for the best, yesterday i told my sister (after being at Dad's most of the day with my other half laying a new bathroom carpet because i couldn't clean it) that i feel like i carn't cope anymore and all she said was"perhaps we should rethink things if you carn't cope" and then follws it up with "do you like my necklace? I have been making them all afternoon" Oh and whilst she was talking she was watching me put Dad's shopping away!!!
I presumme she means i should think about putting Dad in to a care home. At the moment i don't think I coud even find the effort to even start to look into care.
Well better go now I hope this makes sense to some one, any thoughts would be greatly reiceved, just one last bit of info, my other half's Gran is about to be discharged from hospital having had surgery , my dinning room is now a bedroom with several aids awaiting her return!!
Sally
Sorry i am ramblling now but i just don't know what to do for the best, yesterday i told my sister (after being at Dad's most of the day with my other half laying a new bathroom carpet because i couldn't clean it) that i feel like i carn't cope anymore and all she said was"perhaps we should rethink things if you carn't cope" and then follws it up with "do you like my necklace? I have been making them all afternoon" Oh and whilst she was talking she was watching me put Dad's shopping away!!!
I presumme she means i should think about putting Dad in to a care home. At the moment i don't think I coud even find the effort to even start to look into care.
Well better go now I hope this makes sense to some one, any thoughts would be greatly reiceved, just one last bit of info, my other half's Gran is about to be discharged from hospital having had surgery , my dinning room is now a bedroom with several aids awaiting her return!!
Sally