My husband looks and smells like a tramp.
He hasn't got dressed for about 3 months other than when my daughter and I took him to the hospital for a brain scan. He spends most of his time in bed, gets up mid afternoon and lies on the sofa in front of the TV. At 5 pm he has a mug of Complan (everything else tastes disgusting apparently) and takes his tabs. I usually go to bed around 10 and he either goes before or after me. Sometimes he gets up in the night and gets a drink of cranberry juice (he gets through a good litre a day) and/or warms up his 'hottie' in the microwave. He doesn't wake me but I'm often awake and hear him.
I'm not happy about this but I can live with it.
What I find very hard is that where he used to shower and shave every day, he now does so once in a blue moon. He insists it's not because he's afraid of falling, refuses to let me (or my son) help, and is adamant that he doesn't need carers to come and clean him up. He says he will do it later if I remind him (which I do constantly) but never does. If I try to bully him, he says he feels nauseous/his neck aches etc. and takes himself off to bed.
Has anybody else had this problem or have any ideas for me?
Teresa
He hasn't got dressed for about 3 months other than when my daughter and I took him to the hospital for a brain scan. He spends most of his time in bed, gets up mid afternoon and lies on the sofa in front of the TV. At 5 pm he has a mug of Complan (everything else tastes disgusting apparently) and takes his tabs. I usually go to bed around 10 and he either goes before or after me. Sometimes he gets up in the night and gets a drink of cranberry juice (he gets through a good litre a day) and/or warms up his 'hottie' in the microwave. He doesn't wake me but I'm often awake and hear him.
I'm not happy about this but I can live with it.
What I find very hard is that where he used to shower and shave every day, he now does so once in a blue moon. He insists it's not because he's afraid of falling, refuses to let me (or my son) help, and is adamant that he doesn't need carers to come and clean him up. He says he will do it later if I remind him (which I do constantly) but never does. If I try to bully him, he says he feels nauseous/his neck aches etc. and takes himself off to bed.
Has anybody else had this problem or have any ideas for me?
Teresa