Hi, I've posted on here a few times now, my husband Colin is 58, he has fronto temporal dementia, diagnosed four years ago. He has been in an assessment unit for 7 weeks now. At the moment the Social Worker can't find a suitable home for him, but that's not my concern right now. Last week I had a visit from the Council Financial Services Team. A very nice young lady came, unfortunately she didn't even know what condition Colin had, she went through our finances, taking account of Colin's pension, our mortgage, utilities and Colin's DLA. Then she came up with a figure of almost £800 a month as our contribution. This was so ludicrous I just laughed and said that it was impossible, I only work part-time and our joint income, as with most people just about covers our outgoings with a small amount to spare. Her comment was that it was a very unusual situation to have someone so young needing care, with a young family and a mortgage! She contacted her office and asked to be allowed to let me keep half of Colin's pensions. This was agreed and the new figure was almost £400 a month. This is still not feasible, they don't seem to take into account that I have a four bed house to run, all the bills, a car loan, mortgage, young daughter to bring up and that I don't have £400 to pay for a care home every month, I only work part-time myself. I have had the official letter from them now and I am about to reply and tell them exactly where I stand. Has anyone else had a similar experience and where do I go from here? I've contacted the Social Worker to tell her the situation but she's away until 25 June, so no help there at the moment. It's all a bit of a nightmare, one problem after another, but I'm sure someone else has had the same thing so just asking for advice.