Hi, I'm Cookie.
It's lovely to be here and quite a relief to find somewhere with other people going through the same thing! My mum was diagnosed with mild Alzheimers in 2018. It was largely just memory loss at the start but now we are noticing massive mood swings, impatience and rudeness with others, hiding things, not wanting to eat etc. But the most difficult thing to deal with is the total denial.
My Mum is 80 and lives with my Dad who is also 80. I am only 10 minutes away so can be there easily and usually have them over for dinner once a week ( I have a family of 4 with 2 teenagers, one with mental health issues) and talk to them regularly. My Dad is really struggling as my Mum is often quite horrible to him. My mum sorts out her own tablets which is obviously not a good idea but we are at a loss to know how to change this. We've said it would be easier if she took them at the same time as my dad so they can help each other but she gets very offended and says she doesn't have a problem remembering them. I'm pretty sure she doesn't take them properly though.
Dad has prostate cancer and heart troubles and would love to let someone in to help do the cooking and cleaning but my mum is fiercely independent and although she does very little housework now, she thinks she does. Therefore it's also very difficult to suggest getting someone in to help. We've tried saying it's for Dad's benefit but she just says "well I look after Dad"! I feel like we are getting nowhere and things are getting worse. Does anyone have any advice for those in denial of their condition?
Thank you.
It's lovely to be here and quite a relief to find somewhere with other people going through the same thing! My mum was diagnosed with mild Alzheimers in 2018. It was largely just memory loss at the start but now we are noticing massive mood swings, impatience and rudeness with others, hiding things, not wanting to eat etc. But the most difficult thing to deal with is the total denial.
My Mum is 80 and lives with my Dad who is also 80. I am only 10 minutes away so can be there easily and usually have them over for dinner once a week ( I have a family of 4 with 2 teenagers, one with mental health issues) and talk to them regularly. My Dad is really struggling as my Mum is often quite horrible to him. My mum sorts out her own tablets which is obviously not a good idea but we are at a loss to know how to change this. We've said it would be easier if she took them at the same time as my dad so they can help each other but she gets very offended and says she doesn't have a problem remembering them. I'm pretty sure she doesn't take them properly though.
Dad has prostate cancer and heart troubles and would love to let someone in to help do the cooking and cleaning but my mum is fiercely independent and although she does very little housework now, she thinks she does. Therefore it's also very difficult to suggest getting someone in to help. We've tried saying it's for Dad's benefit but she just says "well I look after Dad"! I feel like we are getting nowhere and things are getting worse. Does anyone have any advice for those in denial of their condition?
Thank you.