Hi,
I care for mum and dad and live in the same property, they have annexe accommodation attached to my house. Dad has a diagnosis of dementia. I have my suspicions about mum too.
During lockdown we had no carers as we had been managing previously with some help from a lady cleaning. Over lockdown my parents deteriorated to needing help with all medication, food, cleaning, laundry, and some personal care mainly showers. I had to stop dad going out to shake everybody by the hand and thank them for their help.
About a month ago the lady who cleaned returned doing additional hours for laundry and a few meals a week. This has given me some time to catch up on some house maintenance and also I have two children 11 and 14. Although I hardly get much time with them.
both my parents are in big denial. They don’t need a carer they just need help with a few things.
I think I am just tired. I am finding Dad at the moment really intense. He has Started his tidying up phase again, and furniture moving. I find this exhausting and stressful. Apart from the obvious I can’t find anything, so everything takes me even longer. ...To the worry of him moving tables at 86. I deliberately don’t help because I want this to stop and I think if I help it will encourage him to do it more.
it really gets me down. When I go in he will say something like “look at what I have done!“ like I should be really pleased with his achievements.
he constantly asks me how I am. He constantly hugs me and tells me how he appreciates everything I do. For a while it was lovely but I am finding it suffocating. I don’t want to push him away because I know one day I will do anything to have a hug but at the moment I feel so stressed. Even the days the lady is here with them I have to see them everyday for medication.
feeling low today.
I care for mum and dad and live in the same property, they have annexe accommodation attached to my house. Dad has a diagnosis of dementia. I have my suspicions about mum too.
During lockdown we had no carers as we had been managing previously with some help from a lady cleaning. Over lockdown my parents deteriorated to needing help with all medication, food, cleaning, laundry, and some personal care mainly showers. I had to stop dad going out to shake everybody by the hand and thank them for their help.
About a month ago the lady who cleaned returned doing additional hours for laundry and a few meals a week. This has given me some time to catch up on some house maintenance and also I have two children 11 and 14. Although I hardly get much time with them.
both my parents are in big denial. They don’t need a carer they just need help with a few things.
I think I am just tired. I am finding Dad at the moment really intense. He has Started his tidying up phase again, and furniture moving. I find this exhausting and stressful. Apart from the obvious I can’t find anything, so everything takes me even longer. ...To the worry of him moving tables at 86. I deliberately don’t help because I want this to stop and I think if I help it will encourage him to do it more.
it really gets me down. When I go in he will say something like “look at what I have done!“ like I should be really pleased with his achievements.
he constantly asks me how I am. He constantly hugs me and tells me how he appreciates everything I do. For a while it was lovely but I am finding it suffocating. I don’t want to push him away because I know one day I will do anything to have a hug but at the moment I feel so stressed. Even the days the lady is here with them I have to see them everyday for medication.
feeling low today.