I am getting increasingly concerned about the health of my father who is 78 and increasingly showing signs of Alzheimers.
My Mother is constantly under pressure, normally coping but very proud (also 77 )
Father Physically is very fit.
Mother gets very tired (she does everything)and has high blood pressure, I cannot be there for her as often as I would like as I have a full time job in London, they live in Yorkshire (Iam an only child)
Twice now the police have been called as dad goes off walking in the nearby fields and we think must get lost he arrives home wet and cold hours later but doesnt understand all the fuss,whereas everyone else is beside themselves with worry.
It is impracticle and unreasonable to keep him in as his mood swings can get frightening, (he doesnt understand.)
He is also deafer than ever but we cant make him see anyone (as hes not deaf)
The last straw was the weekend last when dad started to hoover the lawn.
My mother wont take him to see anyone, he just had his annual check at the GP and given a clean bill of health!
Mother is afraid that if she mentions this to anyone he will be taken away.
I cannot talk to either about this as everyone is so distressed.
How can I take control of this situation without more distress?
Would be grateful for any advice.
wilson k
My Mother is constantly under pressure, normally coping but very proud (also 77 )
Father Physically is very fit.
Mother gets very tired (she does everything)and has high blood pressure, I cannot be there for her as often as I would like as I have a full time job in London, they live in Yorkshire (Iam an only child)
Twice now the police have been called as dad goes off walking in the nearby fields and we think must get lost he arrives home wet and cold hours later but doesnt understand all the fuss,whereas everyone else is beside themselves with worry.
It is impracticle and unreasonable to keep him in as his mood swings can get frightening, (he doesnt understand.)
He is also deafer than ever but we cant make him see anyone (as hes not deaf)
The last straw was the weekend last when dad started to hoover the lawn.
My mother wont take him to see anyone, he just had his annual check at the GP and given a clean bill of health!
Mother is afraid that if she mentions this to anyone he will be taken away.
I cannot talk to either about this as everyone is so distressed.
How can I take control of this situation without more distress?
Would be grateful for any advice.
wilson k