Where to start with incontinence
Although i realise that dementia affects both sexes equally,i find many answers on here relating to women looking after men.So i'm seeking help from a man's point of view,looking after a woman,in my case,my wife.
Up until a couple of months ago,incontinence wasn't an issue,yes there had been a few accidents,sometimes brought about by alcohol consumption,that has now been dealt with,i try and make sure that she doesn't touch a drop,except on the odd occasion.But we went to the brother in laws for the weekend before xmas,and with no alcohol involved,she didn't make it to the bathroom,and the mattress was soaked.Fortunately i have an understanding sister-in-law,and she was very helpful.My wife,however,seemed to have no concerns,and just went about her routine as if nothing had happened.I offered to pay for a new mattress,which was rejected as of no consequence,but my sister-in-law advised me to get a waterproof mattress cover for home,which i've done,and has saved the day on four occasions now.But where do i go from here,even though i can wash a mattress cover,it takes some time to dry,and i wondered if someone could advise me as to what pads,or pants i could buy that would avoid this problem,or is that wishful thinking.What do i ask for?what size,are they too uncomfortable to wear in bed?During the day she seems to be ok,and manages to go to the toilet in time,or will that change/deteriorate?
I'd also like to ask members what they do about going on holiday,i'd love to take her away somewhere sunny,but what would i do if she wet the mattress,i don't think i could cope with explaining to the hotel.Any thoughts on this would be appreciated,i must say that,at the moment this is not a double incontinence problem,or is this something i will have to contend with in the future.