Another horrendous evenin

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by mobton, Sep 18, 2019.

  1. Roseleigh

    Roseleigh Registered User

    Dec 26, 2016
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    Much better night last night aided by his having had a peaceful evening, thanks mainly to two TV programs he actually enjoyed. Most programs are of no interest to him and he ends up pacing, or badgering me with attempts at totally confused 'conversation' that by the evening just infuriate me.
     
  2. Linton

    Linton Registered User

    Jul 27, 2019
    115
    Hi Roseleigh.. My OH rants at 'people' who come into the house and asks me how they get in and has me move my mobile and bags so they don't take them
    Constant locking doors then opening them so they can get out... The only way to deal with it is to go along with it... Not easy but it does make him more settled... Drives me mad but anything that makes life easier.... I feel for you as a fellow sufferer xxxx
     
  3. Fishgirl

    Fishgirl Registered User

    Sep 9, 2019
    116
    Hi, I keep reading on here about them seeing people, and thinking, oh thank goodness he doesn’t do that!
    But the other night we were in the kitchen (because he follows me everywhere :rolleyes:) and he asked me where all the people had gone out of the living room, I hope that’s not a sign of it starting, because I think that would scare me to death!:eek:
     
  4. Rosserk

    Rosserk Registered User

    Jul 9, 2019
    318
    My mother is exactly the same every evening! I feel physically sick wondering how bad it will get! I watch the hours tick away on the clock getting closer to the evening and I want to run away!

    We’ve tried lots of medication and nothing works. It’s mostly a trade off as well the meds might lesson one symptom but make another worse! You have my sympathy, sending you a
     
  5. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,716
    Female
    South coast
    It might not be hallucinations.
    Mum used to think that people on the TV were actually in the room and would later wonder where they had gone.
     
  6. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,751
    Kent
    Could you ask your husband to ignore these `evil` men and they will go away. Or could you tell him you will phone the police and make believe a phone call.
     
  7. Fishgirl

    Fishgirl Registered User

    Sep 9, 2019
    116
    Ahh yes that makes sense because we were going to bed, and I’d just turned the tv off.(phew) thanks.x
     
  8. Linton

    Linton Registered User

    Jul 27, 2019
    115
    Hi.. The TV is also a problem with my OH especially if its the news and they look full on to the camera.. He thinks they can see him and hear him talking so tells me to be quiet.. I now turn it off and put some of his favourite music on.. Seems to do the trick... Get that I try anything to make him feel better... Hope it helps xx
     
  9. Fishgirl

    Fishgirl Registered User

    Sep 9, 2019
    116
    Yes thank you Linton, it does, it could also explain another strange thing he says when he’s in bed, (well In and out of bed I should say :rolleyes:) He worries that there are still people downstairs, I couldn’t understand that one, because he wasn’t actually seeing people but thinking they were in another room!! Thank goodness for this forum or I’d be constantly baffled!:eek:
     
  10. Roseleigh

    Roseleigh Registered User

    Dec 26, 2016
    255
    Oh dear that is terrible every evening. You have my sympathy!
     
  11. Roseleigh

    Roseleigh Registered User

    Dec 26, 2016
    255
    Well my lie about going to their shop, and telling them there's been a mistake and we dont need them to come anymore has worked , sort of!! Shall keep your suggestion of calling the police in mind should they return!;)

    The latest fear is that there is a bomb in the house and we're in danger of being blown up! I suspect its occasional 'bangs' from the boiler (rather small 'bombs') that have triggered this. British gas have actually checked it out so no lies needed. Trouble is he forgets this...
     
  12. Roseleigh

    Roseleigh Registered User

    Dec 26, 2016
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    Yeah mine got alarmed after watching Midsommer Murders one night.
     
  13. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,751
    Kent
    Yes I had to monitor television programmes.

    We were watching Come dine with me with a rather rowdy bunch of diners.

    My husband said " Let`s not eat with them. Let`s eat on our own."
     
  14. Roseleigh

    Roseleigh Registered User

    Dec 26, 2016
    255
    LOL, don't blame him. I put that on this afternoon for OH, not the kind of program he would normally watch, but could hear him chuckling away. One to consider for the future I think.
     
  15. Fishgirl

    Fishgirl Registered User

    Sep 9, 2019
    116
    Oh please don’t mention the boiler, I’m dreading the winter, because he’s completely forgotten the concept of a thermostat, he spent the whole of last winter constantly feeling the radiators, and saying the boiler must be broken because they weren’t red hot ALL the time! The service engineer managed to convince him that it was working perfectly but like you say, that was forgotten 5 minutes after he’d gone! Oh great something else to look forward to :(
     
  16. jenniferjean

    jenniferjean Registered User

    Apr 2, 2016
    521
    Female
    Basingstoke, Hampshire
    I wouldn't say anything in particular on TV worries my husband, except he can't stand people laughing. Each time he will put on a false laugh back at them and comment that he hates people who laughs like that.
     

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