Our mother is 90 this year. She's had Alzheimers for over 10 years now and finally went into a care home 2 weeks ago. I went to visit her a few days later and although she seemed fairly content and calm to begin with, she suddenly became quite lucid and seemed to have some insight into her fate. She asked me how long she'd been there and when she was going home. She then launched into a vitriolic attack - she couldn't believe we had just left her in a 'place like that' without talking to her about it first. Did she still have her own home or had we sold it? She has no short term memory whatsoever - in fact its impossible to have any kind of conversation with her. She will also have completely forgotten that I was there. I can now totally see why some unfortunate people get completely forgotten about in care homes - from this first experience, my visit served only to upset her. Will this situation ever improve? I'd be really interested to hear how others have coped/are coping with this situation?