Today, Mum's anxiety when she can't reach me took her to another downward shift. Having spent the day with her as usual for a Saturday (lunch out followed by a bit of shopping), I took her home at 3.30 and said I'd be back around 5.30 "for a cup of tea" (sort out meds, check she's eaten or get her something etc.). By 4.30 the phone was ringing and I attempted calm and said I'd call in once I'd run a small errand. I then left the house to put some notices on the local notice board (part of one of my jobs) and started chatting to a local resident as I did so. I then looked up and there was mum, out in the cold with a thin cardi on, looking visably upset. She doesn't walk at all well and the walk to my house (if she managed to find it) is really too far for her despite being only about 200 yards. I managed to distract her by introducing her to the resident and eventually got her into the car (she was visibly shivering by then) and went back home again by which time she'd forgotten why she was out,=, Reading between the lines, I believe she got anxious when I didn't answer the house phone and came to find me. This is a new development and a worrying one as I know she phones the house phone repeatedly all day whilst I am work (my other part time job). I'd been away from my home for no longer than about 20 minutes. I'm now worried that she'll wander when I'm at work. I know it's time for a care home but without power of attorney (I'm working on that one) and her being self funding (so no help from SS), I'm between a rock and a hard place at the moment. I can't force the issue. I can see she's no longer safe on her own and its like watching a car crash in slow motion. I just know something really bad is going to happen but I feel powerless to stop it.