I will have another break tomorrow night. I am invited to attend the Lucerne Festival and will hear Martha Argerich play Beethoven. We will be required to wear masks , but I am really looking forward to it. Music is an important part of what I consider quality of life, and live music is an experience which moves me in a deep way.
I think I will give up my classical choir as it is just to risky for me to sing with a big group of people. I will not give up singing completely, perhaps I will take some private lessons and I will continue to make music in small groups (and play my guitar). But a ensemble of 20 voices is probably not on at the moment with the Covid.
As the "Selfish Pig" in this relationship, I have managed too live with Nick at home because I have been fortunate enough to manage, employ and organize outside help.
@vannesser I am so sorry your situation is so difficult. I hope that "this too shall pass." for you and your daughter, and of course your ho. 8 cares a day 4 times a day---not sure exactly what this means.....he must be turned and changed. How perfectly horrible for all of you. It is always amazing to me how the human body keeps functioning so long, surviving. Nick made decisions long ago about intervention and long term medical intervention. He will have none. But he has an excellent constitution and a very fit body, so his body may outlive mine.
So, for me in the meantime, I must have pleasure and live in world and find some joy as often as I can arrange for Nick's care and well-being. So, I will drag out something lovely to wear and set my hair and put on my makeup and go out for a lovely experience.
We have no clear idea when Nicky will enter the care home , he has now been on the waiting list since July 22. His children have been told and his family in the UK everyone is expressing their support of my decision. In the meantime, it is one day at a time, and trying to help him live his life as best I can, and still enjoy my own life.
I think I will give up my classical choir as it is just to risky for me to sing with a big group of people. I will not give up singing completely, perhaps I will take some private lessons and I will continue to make music in small groups (and play my guitar). But a ensemble of 20 voices is probably not on at the moment with the Covid.
As the "Selfish Pig" in this relationship, I have managed too live with Nick at home because I have been fortunate enough to manage, employ and organize outside help.
@vannesser I am so sorry your situation is so difficult. I hope that "this too shall pass." for you and your daughter, and of course your ho. 8 cares a day 4 times a day---not sure exactly what this means.....he must be turned and changed. How perfectly horrible for all of you. It is always amazing to me how the human body keeps functioning so long, surviving. Nick made decisions long ago about intervention and long term medical intervention. He will have none. But he has an excellent constitution and a very fit body, so his body may outlive mine.
So, for me in the meantime, I must have pleasure and live in world and find some joy as often as I can arrange for Nick's care and well-being. So, I will drag out something lovely to wear and set my hair and put on my makeup and go out for a lovely experience.
We have no clear idea when Nicky will enter the care home , he has now been on the waiting list since July 22. His children have been told and his family in the UK everyone is expressing their support of my decision. In the meantime, it is one day at a time, and trying to help him live his life as best I can, and still enjoy my own life.