1. Anongirl

    Anongirl Registered User

    Aug 8, 2012
    2,675
    So today is the day that mum is discharged from the assessment unit at the hospital to a nursing home. She's been there since September since being sectioned from a residential home.

    I'm full of doubt because I've been looking for a suitable home only to feel very despondent by what is on offer. So few receive a good CQC report and some of them have just not felt like positive places. This is the best of them but certainly not without some faults. But here we are and the decision is made.

    Mum is so thin and vulnerable. At the age of 68 she has aged greatly in the last two years. So unaware of what is happening.

    So today I drive her to her new home and likely her last home.

    I pray they take care of her, that's all I can ask.
     
  2. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,454
    Ireland
    A hard path to walk Anongirl. Are you close enough to keep a firm eye on things?
     
  3. Dazmum

    Dazmum Registered User

    I hope for the best for your mum and you AG on a difficult day, hugs xxx

    I would be letting them know that you will have a very close eye on your mum's welfare from the word go.
     
  4. Anongirl

    Anongirl Registered User

    Aug 8, 2012
    2,675
    It's further than I hoped but only about 25 minutes drive in traffic. I'm so nervous! It's fear of the unknown x
     
  5. Anongirl

    Anongirl Registered User

    Aug 8, 2012
    2,675
    Thanks Dazmum, I intend to! I'm ready with my determined face!

    The managers are husband and wife and the wife is a nurse. I'm hoping this means it is in their best interests to make the place work well...

    X
     
  6. Sue J

    Sue J Registered User

    Dec 9, 2009
    8,042
    Dear AG

    Thinking of you as you make this journey with your Mum. I hope and pray it will be a place where she will feel safe and understood and that you too can be at peace knowing they will do their very best to meet her needs.

    Love
    Suexxx:)
     
  7. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,422
    Yorkshire
    Hi Anongirl
    I really hope the move goes well for your mum

    I guess I've been fortunate with dad's home - I've found the staff are the key - I made a point of getting to know their names and chatting to them so that they see that in my mind we are a team supporting dad - I ask any questions I have, just as and when and they ask me about dad - I say hello to them every visit when I arrive and ask how dad is, so they have a chance to update me - and I tell them anything I notice
    I've also got to know the names of the other residents and say hello to them too, and have a 'chat' if that is appropriate (you learn pretty quickly how each resident is)
    after all, the care home is now my dad's home and I want him and everyone else who lives and works there to feel as safe and comfortable as possible
    This has paid dividends as the manager and staff know they can contact me and tell me exactly what a situation is - and there have been a few challenging moments - they know I will support them, but that I also expect good care for dad - and I can tell that they got to know dad quickly and have real insight into his particular needs - and, actually, I know they do care about him as the man he is, not just as 'anonymous'

    very best wishes
     
  8. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    Wishing you all the best with your Mums new home, it is not easy, nothing makes it easier to deal with xx

    Ange
     
  9. Gigglemore

    Gigglemore Registered User

    Oct 18, 2013
    526
    British Isles
    Hope today hasn't been too sad for you and that your Mum looked content with her new bedroom. I'm sure the staff there will make an extra special effort to make her feel secure and at home.

    You've done your very best for her, it's all you can do. Now be kind to yourself.
     
  10. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,535
    North East England
    Thinking of you both, AG. I hope it all went well today. You have done your utmost for your mum and I know you'll continue to do so. xx
     

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