I've accepted with dad that we can both see that mum is getting worse as she seems incapable of using her brain at times to think locically but she is really starting to annoy me and I wondered how other people cope with it. Should I just ignore what irritates me? An example, a few days ago I washed my parents sheets and she went into the shower and I know she either didn't wash her hair or didn't wash it well as it looked worse than before and didn't smell clean. In the past I have been in the shower room with her and told her to wash her hair twice. Should I be concerned if she does not want to wash her hair at all? She will only shower when the bed sheets are changed, so once a fortnight. Also I know she's not washing the rest of the time or just using her hands because I don't wash any of her flannels anymore. Then she is starting to use the house as a rubbish tip, she will not tidy up after herself. I craftily try to pick up things I know should be in the bin, rubbish, sweet wrappers etc, but should I be clearing up after her? Then the final one was this morning we were due to go out and she wanted to go out in her grey long sleeved vest and short sleeve T-Shirt and I said she would look stupid and told her to put on a long sleeved T-Shirt. She also has a fungal foot infection and I read that wearing socks makes it worse, but again she refuses to not wear socks to help her feet. Is this normal behaviour for people with dementia?