I don't think it's unreasonable to feel anger - after all, as carers, we have no reason to believe that our situation is ever going to improve. Looking into a black tunnel all the time is not going to make anyone feel uplifted and bright! I do, however, think that in the main, carers do a great job in controlling their anger. And that is the most important thing. Sometimes, when I'm controlling my anger, I find myself pressing my fingernails into my skin, to remind myself! Nonetheless, I love my Mum and I don't have to remind myself very often about that! She cared for me when I was tiny and unable to do anything for myself. Its my turn now.