hello all. My 84 yr old mother has dementia diagnosed approx 6 yrs ago, been lucky slow decline but much more rapid of late. My amazing 87 yr old dad is main carer. I am daughter and also support there is only me and dad.
Over past month or so mums mood swings have varied greatly. UTI treated initially sadly verbally aggressive outbursts continue UTI cleared up. This evening at meal I cook each Thursday dad and I were talking across table. Mum suddenly shouted you just carry on don’t worry about me, I am in way why don’t you just get rid of me. talking all time I want to go.
I have noticed lately mum does not join in cannot follow conversations and I can see she is getting angry when we chat yet we are only talking about weather etc. We try to include. Poor dad so wants a conversation about normal things. This is getting harder. Dads problem he can’t cope with mums upset her turning away from us. He tries to pacify, take her hand, she pushes him away shouting leave me alone, get away. I told him to just leave mum alone as this is what she was requesting. He makes her so much worse trying to pacify rather than giving her space. I feel angry then sad and have to remember not mum but illness. Do others experience this. How do we deal with if so. I also feel so sad for dad.
Over past month or so mums mood swings have varied greatly. UTI treated initially sadly verbally aggressive outbursts continue UTI cleared up. This evening at meal I cook each Thursday dad and I were talking across table. Mum suddenly shouted you just carry on don’t worry about me, I am in way why don’t you just get rid of me. talking all time I want to go.
I have noticed lately mum does not join in cannot follow conversations and I can see she is getting angry when we chat yet we are only talking about weather etc. We try to include. Poor dad so wants a conversation about normal things. This is getting harder. Dads problem he can’t cope with mums upset her turning away from us. He tries to pacify, take her hand, she pushes him away shouting leave me alone, get away. I told him to just leave mum alone as this is what she was requesting. He makes her so much worse trying to pacify rather than giving her space. I feel angry then sad and have to remember not mum but illness. Do others experience this. How do we deal with if so. I also feel so sad for dad.