Hi everyone. Just wanted to say how much D.T.P. helps me to understand all the challenging behaviour and I want to thank you all. My husband, ill for 30 years with many illnesses including Multiple Sclerosis (disabled) too and with Optic Neuritis and Nystagmus. Has an indwelling catheter which I attend to, along with all personal care. In the last two weeks he’s had two bowel accidents and it takes quite a while to clean him up, as he can’t stand for too long holding onto his Zimmer and his right leg just won’t move/bend. He forgets to wash his hands and gets so angry when I remind him and starts banging doors and shouting. I have cared for him 24/7 doing everything and more. He’s had this MS Dementia for at least 8 years and MS for 23 years. I have a lot of health problems, due to pushing him in his wheelchair for years. Thinking he may have to go into care at some point, as I can’t carry on like this. He was never a husband that helped me with anything. Does anyone have experience of people in their fifties in a care home? He went into respite for a few nights last month, but he was calling me constantly from 3.30am. I don’t know what to do for the best. Thank you for any advice.