Hi, I'm looking for ideas, suggestions or/and support. My mother has dementia (I don't know her actual diagnosis) and until July of this year, when my father died, he was her main carer. It is only actually now, when dad is gone, that I'm finding out how advanced mum's dementia actually is. Mum and dad were very active and sociable and dad used to cover very much for mum's limitations. Now with dad gone, mum is lost and exposed. She wants to drive her car, but can't, she wants to go on holiday with her friends, but they can't take responsibility for her. She has started drinking too much, a bottle of wine every 2 days, she gets very angry, particularly as it gets late and she's had a drink. She lives in her own home with 24hr care, but the carer is unable to control her alcohol consumption. Mum has always been very independent and hates having to rely on a carer. I think she feels embarrassed about having a carer. Any suggestions? How do I convince mum that she mustn't drive, that she can't go on holiday?