I’m so sorry to read your update @Grahamstown but totally understand your feelings. A hard time for you. Wishing you strength.
Oh my lovely, I’m so sorry (((((((hugs)))))))) seem inadequate at this moment in time. sending you love & strength for the oncoming days xxxxxxxIt’s end game now after the doctor saw him. He does have a chest infection with inhaled liquids in his lungs, so it’s antibiotics, keep him comfortable, let him eat and drink what he will and eventually he will slip away quietly as his vital functions gradually shut down. I can’t help feeling that pneumonia would be a release for him because he now has to carry on living this non-life and I have to watch him and it could go on for weeks. The doctor said it should be peaceful, that he should go to respite again in two weeks time, for me not for him. There I have been able to write it down.
Thinking of you @Grahamstown, a very difficult time xxIt’s end game now after the doctor saw him. He does have a chest infection with inhaled liquids in his lungs, so it’s antibiotics, keep him comfortable, let him eat and drink what he will and eventually he will slip away quietly as his vital functions gradually shut down. I can’t help feeling that pneumonia would be a release for him because he now has to carry on living this non-life and I have to watch him and it could go on for weeks. The doctor said it should be peaceful, that he should go to respite again in two weeks time, for me not for him. There I have been able to write it down.
With you so much in thoughts, Grahamstown. You are the expert in his condition and in the man himself of course. I think sometimes the reality is too painful to accept, hence the belief that he can be brought round to eating and drinking. You are doing the real love and care, keeping him comfortable and beloved in your presence. with love, KindredThank you everyone for your kindness. His life is slowly drawing to a close but that can take time even though he has not eaten anything for several days now. He does take a small amount of water and has pain relief for his chest so we still have some road to travel. Amazingly he still has some strength to get to the toilet which baffles us but the human body never fails to amaze and we just have to keep taking care of him. The Selfish Pig book is still helping me through the last stage plus negotiating the maze of NHS officialdom which has become a box ticking exercise and requires savvy to make your way through. I keep telling myself I am the expert in his condition and try to be firm and so far I have managed to get the authorities to be on side. It’s shocking to me that still there is a slight attitude that he can be brought round to eating and drinking and mobilising, even as he lies skeletal and inhaling small amounts of anything he drinks.