I am still shocked by her saying that she had said goodbye because the implications are awful. However I am going to bide my time Alice as there is no point in doing anything else. There is always a ray of sunshine in the gloom and I bumped into a colleague and friend in the supermarket this afternoon. He greeted me so effusively and was so upset about my husband, was so adamant that my needs were now a priority and what could he and his partner do to help. He really meant it for himself and his partner who is fond of my husband. I told him about this incident and he was very supportive about it and it turned out he had nursed his wife through a brain tumour so had great insight into my issues. So good came out of a bad situation and I felt a lot better. Families do take a knock when one is stricken with dementia.
my Dads sister came up to visit him & said the same thing “ she has said her goodbyes” - so I do understand a little bit. I am fortunate that I have a good relationship with her & am able to talk about how she feels about Dads situation.
From her perspective- her brother has gone.... my Dad is much further down the path than your OH. My aunt is 88 not in the best of health & lives 130 plus miles away ( it’s not motorway miles either!)
my mum, Dads own wife has difficulties comprehending his condition- this says more about my own mums mental health than anything else.
so I really am alone in this situation. Only child, no other relatives. My own husband doesn’t cope well in these situations & cannot deal with things well. He never has, but supports me in his own way to the best of his abilities.
My son lives in Melbourne so time distance & travel .......
Meanwhile my daughter is around & about at times - my OH doesn’t believe the young should be burdened with this.
so yes I’m very much alone in this...