That sounds promising!Lovely words everyone, thank you. Today I had an email from the care manager who convinced me to have a week of respite now, telling me that he had eaten his supper, been talking to other residents and gone to ask the staff for his cup of tea at 10 o’clock in the evening, so his body clock is all over the place. He will have a routine in the care home which may help but the true moral of the story is that I should give us both regular respite. The care home I have selected this time needs some freshening up, it’s not the 5* style of last year when they needed clients in the newly opened home but it’s friendly and the staff seem lovely and are part of the same organisation who do his home care, hence realising that I was not good. They are more flexible than the one I used last year and cater mostly for dementia clients so I think that helps. Now he is worse I want different things from last year. I shall visit today and I feel tons better because I went to bed early, had a good nights sleep and shall be able to have lunch with a friend today with no pressure to get back to him.