Thank you all so much for your kind words. Until I found TP, I had never realised how much help was out there from all you lovely people. TP should be required reading for all the health professionals involved in dementia care so they could get just an inkling of what it is like to face this dreadful illness. With everything that you have to deal with every day, it is an inexpressible comfort that you find the time to give compassion and sympathy so generously. Yesterday I had previously arranged to babysit little grandson and it made my heart lift to see how he enjoys everything around him. He's at the beginning of life's adventure; bit of a cliche but it was a real 'circle of life' feeling. Helped me through the day between those phone calls that nobody wants to make or receive. Starting to think about mum's funeral. She made some notes about what she wanted a long while ago; I used to think this was a bit morbid but now I can appreciate it does make it easier for us. Except that none of us live in her home town where the funeral will be, and neither does one of the retired ministers who she wants to conduct the service. Mum was a master of organisation so perhaps she wanted to give us a challenge? I'm making lists already, that's just what she would have been doing.... Can't get the death certificate until Monday, first available appointment with the registrar is Friday 14th; even the funeral director couldn't believe that. It's my sister's birthday the following week, I don't want her to have her birthday forever associated with mum's death. At least that means we have time to think and plan, I don't want to be rushed. It's more important to do it right.