One of the carers was staying overnight with my father, who is generally quite placid, albeit stubborn. She was a bit shocked when he asked her for a kiss and tried to pull her on the bed as she was tucking him in. Fortunately, she's not the kind to get worried about it, although it is embarrassing (and with his Parkinson's, he wouldn't have had the coordination to do anything about it if he had been successful in his advances!). It's an improvement on last week when he threatened to have her killed, I suppose...
My Dad made a pass at me, my husband was present at the time!
So listening to live music in the care home I was holding Dads hand & tapping along to the music.
Dad leans across & asks “ when are we doing the rudes?”
Me: “ you what?”
Dad: “ you know the naughties…”
Me: “ see that man sat next to you ..”
Dad: “yes..”
Me: ( laughing) ”…that’s my husband. I don’t do the rudes/ naughties with him so certainly won’t be doing it with you. But nice try “
yes I laughed , yes I made light of it as in Dads head he was in his early twenties & a bit of a lad !
It meant nothing, just reality & inhibitions distorted by dementia.
I got Dad a big cuddly toy , & did the same for Mum. Mum kisses & cuddles it continually & it brings comfort , company.
Your Dad won’t remember , & the carer needs to be aware of this aspect of dementia & how to deal with it. It’s really common.