Ambiguous Loss

[JackieJames]

Ambiguous loss is a type of loss you feel when a person with dementia is physically here, but may not be mentally or emotionally present in the same way as before.

http://www.alzheimer.ca/~/media/Files/national/Core-lit-brochures/ambiguous_loss_family_e.pdf

Another thread of interest might be Anticipatory Grief.
http://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/showthread.php?85774-Anticipatory-Grief

 

[Izzy]

Ambiguous Loss

What an interesting document. Thanks for posting it.

 

[maryw]

This was so interesting to read, food for thought. Thank you for posting.

 

[Cat27]

Thankyou for posting that article. It's relevant to me.

 

[marionq]

"Grief can be frozen and life put on hold. If you don’t allow yourself to grieve or resume some of your regular activities, coping will be harder as the disease progresses."


This quote in the article jumped out at me because i think I have tried too hard to make a life round dementia and it has taken over me all too often. Now John has three days at daycare there is a part of the week when I can indeed resume some normality. I realise that putting life on hold and waiting for something better to turn up is probably what a lot of us do. Tragically the something better doesn't always materialise