Hello
My mum is 87 and has advanced dementia .
She is in a care home I have essential care givers status and I visit her all the time .
She seems now mostly crying She can't tell me why she's upset so I do what I can to try and change her mood with various things .
My question and concerns are.
I was speaking yesterday to the manager and was informed that it had been noted by members of staff and the dementia crisis team that she is mostly upset all the time when I'm there .
As you can understand this has devastated me
Me and my mum have always been so close she's my world
It wasent done horribly it was explained that they would like me to not visit this week so they could monitor her mood to see if she's more settled when I'm not there .
It seems for her to be happy and move on to her own little world she needs to forget me .
I am so upset I do not want to be the cause of my mums distress I love her so much .
Has anyone else had this happen ?
Is it true ?
What happens if she is more settled when I'm not there?
I am upset and confused
Am I just some reminder of something she dosent understand she tells me all the time I love you
She is on anti depressants and anti phycotics due to hallucinations.
I just want her to be OK as much as she can but I don't know what to do .
Thank you x
My mum is 87 and has advanced dementia .
She is in a care home I have essential care givers status and I visit her all the time .
She seems now mostly crying She can't tell me why she's upset so I do what I can to try and change her mood with various things .
My question and concerns are.
I was speaking yesterday to the manager and was informed that it had been noted by members of staff and the dementia crisis team that she is mostly upset all the time when I'm there .
As you can understand this has devastated me
Me and my mum have always been so close she's my world
It wasent done horribly it was explained that they would like me to not visit this week so they could monitor her mood to see if she's more settled when I'm not there .
It seems for her to be happy and move on to her own little world she needs to forget me .
I am so upset I do not want to be the cause of my mums distress I love her so much .
Has anyone else had this happen ?
Is it true ?
What happens if she is more settled when I'm not there?
I am upset and confused
Am I just some reminder of something she dosent understand she tells me all the time I love you
She is on anti depressants and anti phycotics due to hallucinations.
I just want her to be OK as much as she can but I don't know what to do .
Thank you x