Would like to start by saying a big thank you to everyone on TP for their kind words and support following my dads death last week.
I have been busy organising the funeral which unfortunately isn't until 13th April.
I'm not sure how I feel this week, the horrible feeling of waiting for the phone to ring with bad news has gone, but I think my body had got so used to high stress levels it is finding it hard to readjust as I definitely don't feel right today.
Have the minister coming around today to get info for the eulogy, I have no idea what he will ask and to be honest I am totally dreading it ( maybe that's why my head feels so weird).
Back to my question, i phoned dads carehome last Tuesday to say he had died and spoke to one of the carers. I was expecting the manager to ring back at some point to offer her condolecenses but nothing, I feel like they are not bothered now he is gone and they won't be getting any more money. Am I right to feel like she should have phoned?
During the whole time dad was in hospital (4 weeks) she didn't phone once it was always me calling to let them know what was happening.
The other thing I am waiting for is the final bill which I asked for on 9th March. I told the home on 27th Feb he wouldn't be going back as he was too ill to move and would die in hospital, and the palliative care nurse phoned them the next day to confirm this. I thought this is when the two weeks notice would start. I cleared his room out on Monday 11th (within the notice period and I was not asked to do it) but when I phoned later that day to ask for the final bill her comments suggested that the notice would start from the day I cleared his room out? Is this right? I know it's not totally clear cut as we he hadn't actually died when I gave notice but it was just a matter of when he would not if he would as all fluids had been stopped. I also know that lots of relatives don't clear the rooms out once their loved one has died - the home get rid of the clothes.
Sorry for the ramble, I just feel let down for dad, I know death is par for the course in a carehome, but he was there nearly two years and it just makes me sad to think they don't care and are only interested in his money.
I have been busy organising the funeral which unfortunately isn't until 13th April.
I'm not sure how I feel this week, the horrible feeling of waiting for the phone to ring with bad news has gone, but I think my body had got so used to high stress levels it is finding it hard to readjust as I definitely don't feel right today.
Have the minister coming around today to get info for the eulogy, I have no idea what he will ask and to be honest I am totally dreading it ( maybe that's why my head feels so weird).
Back to my question, i phoned dads carehome last Tuesday to say he had died and spoke to one of the carers. I was expecting the manager to ring back at some point to offer her condolecenses but nothing, I feel like they are not bothered now he is gone and they won't be getting any more money. Am I right to feel like she should have phoned?
During the whole time dad was in hospital (4 weeks) she didn't phone once it was always me calling to let them know what was happening.
The other thing I am waiting for is the final bill which I asked for on 9th March. I told the home on 27th Feb he wouldn't be going back as he was too ill to move and would die in hospital, and the palliative care nurse phoned them the next day to confirm this. I thought this is when the two weeks notice would start. I cleared his room out on Monday 11th (within the notice period and I was not asked to do it) but when I phoned later that day to ask for the final bill her comments suggested that the notice would start from the day I cleared his room out? Is this right? I know it's not totally clear cut as we he hadn't actually died when I gave notice but it was just a matter of when he would not if he would as all fluids had been stopped. I also know that lots of relatives don't clear the rooms out once their loved one has died - the home get rid of the clothes.
Sorry for the ramble, I just feel let down for dad, I know death is par for the course in a carehome, but he was there nearly two years and it just makes me sad to think they don't care and are only interested in his money.