I have been the prime carer for my mother who had early stage Alzheimer's. The Psychiatrist, based on tests, felt she had moderate to severe Alzheimers but my mother could be left alone 2 days a week and was able to use a microwave to heat up soup for her lunch when I was at work. She was able to take care of all her personal hygiene without help of prompting from me - having a shower every day, dressing and undressing without help. I feel so wretched as unfortunately my mother passed away 3 weeks ago of a heart attack which was unexpected. I used to shout at her out of frustration and she hated it when I shouted although I was finding it easier to cope with her care over time. I had been looking after mum for 2 years 4 months since my father died of Stomach Cancer. I have 2 older brothers - 10 and 8 years older. They basically left me to cope with the running of the house, caring for Mum and holding down a stressful job. They felt their jobs were more important than mine - I work in a Jobcentre. I know it is stupid but I feel guilty about shouting at mum as I know it distressed her. I feel I could have cared for her better but I don't know how. I took her out every day, helped her maintain her friendships, cooked, cleaned and did the washing. My brothers would take mum out about every 4-6 weeks for about 1-2 hours. I had to ask them to do everything. I am sorry about this waffle but I loved my mum so much and miss the chats we had as although her short term memory was bad she was able to give such good advise and had a wonderful sense of humour.