Hi everyone, Not a good day today; I went to visit mom in the care home, she was very down and tearful, Kept putting her head in her hands and crying all the time I was there. She keeps asking me to take her to live with us, she constantly says how frightened she is and thinks the communal lounge is hers and that it is too big. I came away so down heartened, my hearts aches so much, the only way I can describe how I feel is that I am grieving for the mom she used to be. I can see her, I can hold her, but my heart is so heavy. All I want to do is cry. She said that she is so unhappy and she is going to die tonight. I feel so bad because I cannot look after her like she wants me to. I wish I could. The tears are streaming down my face again, I just can't seem to stop crying. All my friends tell me that it is the dementia talking, but just what if she is that unhappy and we are failing her?