Hi,
My OH went into a care home in August. He has settled well and is happy. There are a couple of things that I'm not happy about though and I'm wondering if it's just me, expecting too much. I'd appreciate your thoughts please.
I live close and am able to visit every day. It seems that no matter what time of day I go in, he is often dripping wet. Yesterday, there were two other residents laughing at him when I arrived, as there was a puddle under his chair where he was just dripping. On Sunday afternoon, the senior carer was laughing at him because he'd been and put his dressing gown on. It was because he was dripping wet! He doesn't have enough capacity to ask to be changed but was aware that he was very wet, bless him.
I have spoken to them many times and they just go on the defensive, saying that he has been changed, he must have had a full bladder etc etc. I supply all 'super' quality incontinence pants and I frequently change him myself if they're too busy. Am I expecting too much? Is this the norm?
He has had cellulitis on two occasions now, since August. His ankles swollen, split, infected and weeping. Both times, it's been me that has noticed this when I've changed him. But they shower and dress him. Shouldn't they be picking up on this? What if I didn't go in every day?
I know our loved ones are never going to be cared for in the way we would like and that to some extent we have to accept that homes are short staffed and inadequately trained, but I just don't think this is good enough.
Any thoughts please? Am I expecting too much?
JigJog x
My OH went into a care home in August. He has settled well and is happy. There are a couple of things that I'm not happy about though and I'm wondering if it's just me, expecting too much. I'd appreciate your thoughts please.
I live close and am able to visit every day. It seems that no matter what time of day I go in, he is often dripping wet. Yesterday, there were two other residents laughing at him when I arrived, as there was a puddle under his chair where he was just dripping. On Sunday afternoon, the senior carer was laughing at him because he'd been and put his dressing gown on. It was because he was dripping wet! He doesn't have enough capacity to ask to be changed but was aware that he was very wet, bless him.
I have spoken to them many times and they just go on the defensive, saying that he has been changed, he must have had a full bladder etc etc. I supply all 'super' quality incontinence pants and I frequently change him myself if they're too busy. Am I expecting too much? Is this the norm?
He has had cellulitis on two occasions now, since August. His ankles swollen, split, infected and weeping. Both times, it's been me that has noticed this when I've changed him. But they shower and dress him. Shouldn't they be picking up on this? What if I didn't go in every day?
I know our loved ones are never going to be cared for in the way we would like and that to some extent we have to accept that homes are short staffed and inadequately trained, but I just don't think this is good enough.
Any thoughts please? Am I expecting too much?
JigJog x