Hi I live in Switzerland, have a brother in England. Mum at moment in mental clinic but she is ready to be moved out as she is now stable. I found a care home in the county where she lives but my brother will not have any of it because he would have to travel 26 miles one way. He seems to be insisting on a home nearer to his home in another county. I don't have experience of the roads in England but from where I'm standing I think it should be possible for him to travel 26 miles to see his Mum. I had everything lined up only to hear from the Manager of that home that my SIL had called to say they want my Mum to be nearer them. I don't want to be unreasonable because, after all, they have to do most of the work. I do whatever I can with the help of Internet (how did we ever get on without it). Is a round trip of 52 miles too much? Please bring me down to earth and in the right frame of mind. I'm going round in circles here. I mail the home only to get the reply that my brother has called it off. Right now I'm frustrated and angry because the mental health authorities are saying that Mum is stable but the clinic is an unhealthy environment for her to be in as there are some "very ill people there" and she should leave asap. It's so very difficult being so far away and wanting to help. Many thanks for your time.