JimB - If you've not done so, go to the websites of Age UK http://www.ageuk.org.uk/ & Carers Trust http://www.carers.org/ - both have plenty of advice on financial matters (eg Attendence Allowance, Carer's Allowance) as well as well as on getting help for yourself. If you'd like specific advice then contact your local Age UK (link in the website) and check the Carers Trust website for local information also. My own trust provides some free respite by means of a 'carer's prescription'. If yours does so, then you can obtain this from your own GP - certainly make sure your GP is informed that you are a carer. My own mum has been disregarded for Council Tax because of a severe mental impairment (Alzheimer's) which is a big saving. You can enquire about a form to apply for this from your local council http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/site/scripts/documents_info.php?documentID=137 Did anyone mention getting the Care Assessment & Carer's Assessment from the local council? http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/site/scripts/documents_info.php?documentID=131 It's essential to be on the system - if anything should happen to you then they need to step in. I've been issued with a card which I keep in my wallet to say that 'I'm Responsible for a Vulnerable Person'. I hope you can find a way to accustom your mum to being without you - I think you really will have to. Perhaps if you get to see a social worker for the Carer's Assessment, they will be able to advise you on the way ahead.