We have a family wedding coming up at the end of the month. Given my huge dissapointment at not being invited to Louise's wedding this one is my consolation so to speak. Its taking place in a beautiful hotel on the shores of an amazing lake. The plan was we were staying 3 days. My mum was invited because the groom's mother is mum's aunt and she felt mum should be asked as a matter of courtesy. Aunty V (her mum) tried to dissuade her for my sake. I assumed that as we were going for a 3 day stay mum wouldn't be able to get so thought no more of it. I went out at the weekend and bought a gorgeous dress as I my weight has finally stopped dropping.
Then aunty V called. She said my uncle (mum's brother) felt mum should be able to go to the wedding. My heart sank. Its all very well his kindness and thinking of mum but its me who will be babysitter no matter what uncle says. He's taking it upon himself to personally drive her there and back. She is of course excited and raring to go. John and I got married 18mths ago and mum was a handfull then. Nothing was right and she complained a lot. She was also quite disorientated with the unfamilar surroundings. We had a similar experience at another wedding prior to our own.
Aunty V has said they will sit mum at another table and 'try' to keep her entertained so we can enjoy the day. Mum however has already said that I can be the one to make sure she gets her meds and keep her company.
In light of this the shine has gone off the day. I am now sorely tempted to say nothing to the family until closer to the time and then tell them I can't go for health reasons. A bit sneaky I know but I really don't see the point in going when mum will be at my elbow all day. She can't cope in strange enviornments anymore. It confuses and agitates her. That's not her fault obviously but it will still mean she will stick to me like a limpet. The only other people she will know will be aunty V and her husband and the grooms parents. Am I being really horrible about all this? I feel bad but was so looking forward to our time away and did not expect to be babysitter for the day.
Mum continues to behave to a point. Now that she thinks I am getting better she is beginning to demand things again. John had started to visit her again as she is behaving but she's taken this as a green light that between us we should be there almost every night.
What to do. What to do
Isabella
Then aunty V called. She said my uncle (mum's brother) felt mum should be able to go to the wedding. My heart sank. Its all very well his kindness and thinking of mum but its me who will be babysitter no matter what uncle says. He's taking it upon himself to personally drive her there and back. She is of course excited and raring to go. John and I got married 18mths ago and mum was a handfull then. Nothing was right and she complained a lot. She was also quite disorientated with the unfamilar surroundings. We had a similar experience at another wedding prior to our own.
Aunty V has said they will sit mum at another table and 'try' to keep her entertained so we can enjoy the day. Mum however has already said that I can be the one to make sure she gets her meds and keep her company.
In light of this the shine has gone off the day. I am now sorely tempted to say nothing to the family until closer to the time and then tell them I can't go for health reasons. A bit sneaky I know but I really don't see the point in going when mum will be at my elbow all day. She can't cope in strange enviornments anymore. It confuses and agitates her. That's not her fault obviously but it will still mean she will stick to me like a limpet. The only other people she will know will be aunty V and her husband and the grooms parents. Am I being really horrible about all this? I feel bad but was so looking forward to our time away and did not expect to be babysitter for the day.
Mum continues to behave to a point. Now that she thinks I am getting better she is beginning to demand things again. John had started to visit her again as she is behaving but she's taken this as a green light that between us we should be there almost every night.
What to do. What to do
Isabella