Some of you will know that MH is in a rest home an hour and a half's drive from here. I have struggled over the past 5 months as to whether I should stay here or move to live in the same town he is in. We were so close until dementia got in the way, but the closeness has been rekindled by us being apart. Now all I can think of is selling up so I can be closer physically to MH. I want to see him every day and volunteer in the rest home. MH was my life and I was his and I hate this separation. The simplest solution, of course, is to stay here. Moving would probably mean a small mortgage, but I think I'm prepared to do that as I am so unhappy the way things are.