When my husband was first diagnosed, and even before, we had horrendous bust ups. He was agressive, verbally abusive and downright nasty. I spent most of my time in tears or in despair. We would not speak, often for days.
I was so angry with him, I was doing my best and giving all I could, but he just couldn`t see it. He thought I was the one with the problem, all his difficulties were because of me. And so it continued on and on and on.
Lately there has been a change. When the mood swings occur, they are over in hours or even minutes. He is apologetic and ashamed. Even if he can`t remember what happened, he is aware something has spoilt the mood between us. The swings are still as frequent, but seem to be overcome more easily and don`t cause so much trauma.
Has anyone else had this experience. Is it because I am managing my reactions better, or because my husband has more understanding of his condition, or for some other mysterious reason.
I know there`s worse to come but for the present, I actually feel things are improving, definitely in our relationship, and probably in our management of the condition.
Or am I being naive?
I was so angry with him, I was doing my best and giving all I could, but he just couldn`t see it. He thought I was the one with the problem, all his difficulties were because of me. And so it continued on and on and on.
Lately there has been a change. When the mood swings occur, they are over in hours or even minutes. He is apologetic and ashamed. Even if he can`t remember what happened, he is aware something has spoilt the mood between us. The swings are still as frequent, but seem to be overcome more easily and don`t cause so much trauma.
Has anyone else had this experience. Is it because I am managing my reactions better, or because my husband has more understanding of his condition, or for some other mysterious reason.
I know there`s worse to come but for the present, I actually feel things are improving, definitely in our relationship, and probably in our management of the condition.
Or am I being naive?