Hi everyone, I live with my mum who has advanced dementia, she goes to bed around 9pm and can sleep till I go in in the morning to get her up, she is often awake when I go in, just staring at the ceiling, she can't communicate, just babbles, but I can tell by the tone of her voice she is frightened, doesn't want to get out of bed. I sometimes leave her till around 12pm, to see if she'll get up hherself but she doesn't. She's quite fit physically and can walk, but I believe if I didn't force her to get up she would be bedridden.
Once up she has breakfast watches TV and I take her the shops and lunch in a cafe, she likes being in the car. But worry I'm being cruel, getting her out of bed and dragging her out, when really she just wants to stay in bed, which I know would lead to a decline being totally bedridden. This happened to my aunt who I looked after, she refused to get out of bed and stayed there for 4 years till she died, she could voice her opinion, mum can't. Am I being terrible forcing mum up when she's terrified of everything around her .?
Once up she has breakfast watches TV and I take her the shops and lunch in a cafe, she likes being in the car. But worry I'm being cruel, getting her out of bed and dragging her out, when really she just wants to stay in bed, which I know would lead to a decline being totally bedridden. This happened to my aunt who I looked after, she refused to get out of bed and stayed there for 4 years till she died, she could voice her opinion, mum can't. Am I being terrible forcing mum up when she's terrified of everything around her .?