My grandmother developed some form of dementia in her 70's. She used to go banging on shop doors at 6 am because she forgot to wind her clocks. We never had a proper diagnosis.
My mother complained of headaches all the time. I remember when I was 12 she was taking at least 8 Aspro a day. When she was 70 she tried to kill my father by throwing him down the stairs, and trying to strangle him. She told the police she had a sharp knife and was going to stab him. The DSS put him in a B&B and left her in the house. She should have been sectioned under the Mental Health Act. We tried to get her sorted but no joy. I couldn't have her because I am in a small cottage and had my daughter and grandson living with me. She could have attacked any of us.It was only when the Police were called out several times because she was out in the street shouting for my father to come home, that the DSS arranged a home for her. They took all of my parent's savings. £87,000 as though it was all her money, leaving my father with only his pension. My father was allowed to move back into the house, but soon had to be moved into a home as he was almost blind, deaf, and had skin cancer. I think both should have been paid for by the State on medical grounds. On their subsequent deaths there was only £15,000 left, which they had to leave us. The home where my mother was charged for manicures, hairdressing etc. I saw no sign of her having either of these services. They said she had small bleeds to the brain which caused fits. There was a possibility this was caused by the amount of aspirin she took over the years. We never got a proper diagnosis.
My Doctor says at 61 "I seem OK". I am worried that I will end up like them.
I took on board what my USA relatives said years ago and ditched the aluminium saucepans.
I worry about my future. All dementia patients should have free care if their families can't cope.