My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and is now 60. The main problem is that he tends to approach people in public on a regular basis, he invades their space, behaves/speaks inappropriately and also says things that are embarrassing about me. Help cards have kindly been suggested but at the time they are not thought of and there hasn't seemed a good time to give them or to generally say my husband has an illness. My husband is fully aware about what he does.
Someone has suggested that I do not take my husband out for my own self preservation. However, we love our walks and there is not much else we can do as have to avoid restaurants, supermarkets etc. It looks like I will have to stop our favourite walk as children go there to feed the ducks. The only way I can avoid this dilemma is for us to go for very early morning walks. I won't necessarily find this easy. My husband loves going to tea rooms for tea and cake but it can be so embarrassing for me when he approaches people such as crawling on his knees up to a table or telling them something personal about me and my family.
I have tried to talk to friends and family about the situation but no one has offered to accompany us and already someone today goes on the defence and then I just feel worse.
I would like to know if there are many people that would leave their partner at home because of their behaviour in public. I have noticed it does worry other people at times when we are out and they give strange looks. I just think the walks are healthy for my husband too and think he would go downhill more quickly if I stopped them. Some people tell me not to worry about what others think and that there is dementia out there but I do worry, particularly when he won't stop behaving in an inappropriate way when I ask him to. We have been together for a long time now so I find this very hard. In one way I feel I should be thick skinned and make a life for myself in another way I feel I should help him as much as possible. He thinks it is not a problem and says its his sense of humour but that is the excuse he uses.
I have decided not to go on holiday with him again and have adjusted our lives lots but he is so good in many ways that this is still confusing. He loves talking about places to visit and holidays so this is really hard as what sort of life is it for both of us never to go out but I can't stand what he does regularly when he sees people. My husband seems to be magnified by people. I don't mind him talking to them and it does make his day but it doesn't make mine as I don't want him saying things out very loudly such as how my son and daughter don't like him talking to strangers or I don't, and that he hates any programs I watch on television, that I am only happy when he goes to the bank, our names, our address etc.
My husband can be considerate so it really is such a shame he has developed this kind of behaviour in public.
I would appreciate if any of you think it would be best if I kept my husband at home as much as possible or if you feel that is unacceptable even though I would put this matter as the worse problem I have ever had.
Thanks
Someone has suggested that I do not take my husband out for my own self preservation. However, we love our walks and there is not much else we can do as have to avoid restaurants, supermarkets etc. It looks like I will have to stop our favourite walk as children go there to feed the ducks. The only way I can avoid this dilemma is for us to go for very early morning walks. I won't necessarily find this easy. My husband loves going to tea rooms for tea and cake but it can be so embarrassing for me when he approaches people such as crawling on his knees up to a table or telling them something personal about me and my family.
I have tried to talk to friends and family about the situation but no one has offered to accompany us and already someone today goes on the defence and then I just feel worse.
I would like to know if there are many people that would leave their partner at home because of their behaviour in public. I have noticed it does worry other people at times when we are out and they give strange looks. I just think the walks are healthy for my husband too and think he would go downhill more quickly if I stopped them. Some people tell me not to worry about what others think and that there is dementia out there but I do worry, particularly when he won't stop behaving in an inappropriate way when I ask him to. We have been together for a long time now so I find this very hard. In one way I feel I should be thick skinned and make a life for myself in another way I feel I should help him as much as possible. He thinks it is not a problem and says its his sense of humour but that is the excuse he uses.
I have decided not to go on holiday with him again and have adjusted our lives lots but he is so good in many ways that this is still confusing. He loves talking about places to visit and holidays so this is really hard as what sort of life is it for both of us never to go out but I can't stand what he does regularly when he sees people. My husband seems to be magnified by people. I don't mind him talking to them and it does make his day but it doesn't make mine as I don't want him saying things out very loudly such as how my son and daughter don't like him talking to strangers or I don't, and that he hates any programs I watch on television, that I am only happy when he goes to the bank, our names, our address etc.
My husband can be considerate so it really is such a shame he has developed this kind of behaviour in public.
I would appreciate if any of you think it would be best if I kept my husband at home as much as possible or if you feel that is unacceptable even though I would put this matter as the worse problem I have ever had.
Thanks