Hi, My mum has been diagnosed two years ago with Alzheimer. It has been an incredibly painful journey leading up to her diagnoses. My parents live in Italy, where i am from. My dad is now the main carer and both for him and me it has been a horrible process of loss .. and transformation. I thought we were on the way to cope better with the illness but its evolution, ups and downs are surprising and the pain does not seem to cease. My mum has never been a possessive woman and always respected my choice to move to the UK. Despite having lived here for the past 13 years, since she was diagnosed she has begun asking me constantly "when are you coming back?" It is heart breaking and as much as i would love to go back and be closer, they live in a small (touristy) village where there are no jobs... i feel so guilty being so far awat and so incredibly powerless ... i don't know what to do.